The clientele for the store I work in are mostly in their late 50s, and the clothing we sell is tailored to fit their needs and aesthetic, which is largely conservative (think: high necklines, lower hemlines) and less-trendy (paisley everywhere, all the time). The regular's daughter loves dressing her mom, who is very conservative and loves the clothes in the store. The daughter, however, wears her own style, which is quite akin to Joan from Madmen in many ways. (Think: red hair, round hips, figure-hugging). And the daughter always wears heels and a bright red lip.
It's no secret that I admire the daughter's style. I compliment her every time she comes in. It's also no secret that I hope never to wear the clothes I now sell. BUT I don't bash the people who love that style and wear it with pride. That's not the case with my co-worker.
As soon as the mother and daughter left, she ranted about how awful the daughter's sense of style was and how she should hide her fat instead of flaunting it. Apparently, figure-hugging clothing is a no-no in some fashion book. My co-worker was genuinely confused when she asked me, "why would you wear a vibrant, sateen emerald green dress AND red lips when shopping in a mall?"
Of course, I found nothing wrong with the daughter's style choices. Just as much as I found nothing wrong with the mother's ensemble which consisted of a baby blue bib sweater, twill khakis, baby blue orthopedic loafers, and baby blue purse (all the exact same shade of baby blue, mind you). To me, as I tried to explain to my co-worker, one's style choices are their own. We shouldn't force them to choose differently, unless they ask for our help. And we have no right to judge how people choose to look because we don't know and cannot be absolutely sure why they choose to look that way.
I guess what I'm coming to is that I embrace all aesthetics. Sure, there are a lot that I personally don't find appealing for myself to wear, but I embrace them nonetheless. It bugs me when judgments are made based on a person's manner of dress. It's unfair and very discriminatory.
I'm not sure I convinced my co-worker, who looked at me like I was crazy after I gave my spiel. She may have thought I was stretching it when I compared her comments to bullying. But we all know better, right?